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I always love when someone can take a word and make each letter stand for something. As a bit of a word nerd, I love acrostics, initialisms and acronyms.

I will never forget seeing an acrostic for the name Alex. What do you do with that letter ‘X’? Well, Alex had blond hair. The writer used the word xanthic to describe her hair color. Brilliant.

We all know that SCUBA stands for self contained underwater breathing apparatus, and perhaps most of us know that radar is short for radio detection and ranging, but today I learned that laser is short for
light amplification by stimulated emission of radiation. Ah, but I digress.

What I really wanted to point out today is that LIFE (yes the life we live) should really stand for Living Intentionally For Excellence and that BIG stands for Bring In God.

Cuddle a cat

So to live a big life, we need to bring in God and live intentionally for excellence.

Pray with your S.O.

Here are some tips or tools of the trade that can alter the course you may currently be on:

1) Eat good food. Simple right? I mean things that come from the earth and not a box.

Real Food

2) Enjoy your pets. The simple pleasures of a furry friend can make you slow down.

3) Write down what you really want. It could be small like making it through an entire day without screaming at your teenager, or it could be something big like paying off your mortgage two years early. When we write goals down we are more likely to work towards them.

4) Pray and pray and pray. I always had a hard time praying for myself, as I assumed it was too selfish, but a good man of faith once reminded me that God wants us to be happy and fulfilled. I try my best to pray for others first and conclude with some desires of my own.

Relax in Nature

5) Set yourself apart. Instead of binge-watching the next series (ask me how many episodes in a row I have watched of Call the Midwife),  reach for that book or Google search a Ted talk on an area you need more knowledge in.

6) Take time to do absolutely nothing in particular. In this frenetic society, we run on empty for much of the day. Relaxing and recharging will allow you to do it all over again tomorrow with clarity and love.

Enjoy your life as it is now, always looking for ways to improve. Always have gratitude for what you have, while working towards what you want.

Adult children

One night in conversation, some friends and I asked each other when you stop being a parent. Well, I suppose we never stop being a parent, but we were all in agreement that there should be a time when we stop parenting.

Is it the moment they turn eighteen? Hell no. Is it when they attend college? Getting warmer. Is it when they finish college and move out? Warmer still. Obviously, this is each individual family’s decision but at some point, we must realize that the more we push our own agenda onto our children, the more we may push them away. Worse yet, the more we bail out our children and make their decisions for them, the more we stifle their own growth.

Allowing them to make their own stupid decisions authorizes them to become mature. My favorite Bible verse in the book of James explains it this way.: James 1:2-4 “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters whenever you face trials of many kinds because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”  In other words, we have to go through some “stuff” in order to be grown up, and that goes for our adult children as well.

I know there will be things like late cell phone payments, tattoos you don’t approve of, parking tickets not paid, boyfriends or girlfriends you do not approve of, a large credit card payment they cannot make on time or any other fill in the blank you can think of. Take a deep breath. Remember that you already raised them and now they have to step into their own role and do their own adulting.

Relax. Try to live by example only and with any luck, they will eventually transcend immaturity and make you proud.

Part child-Part adult

Is your self doubt your glass ceiling?

You have heard many the entrepreneur talk about why they left the corporate world. They saw that no matter how hard they worked and no matter how many extra certifications and degrees they got, they were still not achieving the financial success they expected. They could not seem to break the glass ceiling.

Can there be a glass ceiling in any areas of your life that may have nothing to do with finances? Maybe you think you are not smart enough to go back to school after all of these years. Perhaps you feel that you are too old to start a new career. Do you feel too broken down to exercise?

I want to share a story with you that with any luck will motivate you into pursuing your next dream.

I was 17 or 18 when I saw this crazy race on TV. Some 23-year-old, nutty woman was crawling across the finish line of a 140-mile race. Yes, it was the Hawaii Ironman Triathlon and the woman was the now famous, Julie Moss. Call me crazy. Call me an idiot. Call me insane, but there was something in me that really wanted to do that race.

Break that glass!

My glass ceiling included so much self-doubt that it was just a pipe dream. Luckily for me, I mentioned it to my dad. He was the absolute master of positivity. He knew how to put a positive spin on any situation. When he was around everything came up roses and everything seemed possible.

Yet I still could not fathom how I would be able to call myself an Ironman. Here were the reasons I created my own glass ceiling or limitations to excellence: I’m too fat. Those distance athletes were skinny and had no breasts. I only knew how to swim in a chlorinated pool with lane lines. How would I swim in the Pacific Ocean? I did not have a cool racing bike. How would I ride 112 miles on my Raleigh Grand Prix ten speed? I wasn’t the best track or cross country runner in high school. How would I do a 26.2-mile marathon after all of that swimming and biking?

My father knew of a Reiki master and set up an appointment for me. I had never heard of Reiki and was skeptical that someone could change the vibrational energy or thoughts that were holding me back from moving forward. He knew how to take dreams and turn them into tangible goals. He reminded me that I had already done the marathon distance many times, and practically came out of the womb riding a bike. Knowing I was a lifeguard and had access to many pools where we lived, he set out to help me turn my poor body image thinking into that of a true ironman.

112 miles

It did not happen overnight. I first had to get out of my own way and not obsess that I did not look like the typical triathlete. I rearranged my school and work schedule to train. I saved money for the entrance fee, plane fare hotel fee, new bike, and so forth. Six years after seeing that crazy race on TV, I competed and finished the Hawaii Ironman and went on to do two more!

What is your glass ceiling?

What negative thinking and defeatist attitude will you continue to allow? I pray that you will get that chip off if your shoulder, find a coach or counselor (I know one) who will be your cheerleader and move you forward in whatever you wish to accomplish.

Take Five

“It is not enough to be busy. So are the ants. The question is: What are we busy about?” Henry David Thoreau

I get it. We are all busy. Society almost demands it. But the question is, are we just busy keeping all of the balls in the air like a juggler until the balls drop or are we prioritizing what is truly essential?

Some tasks can be delegated. Some errands can wait. Some housecleaning can be hacked with shortcuts. Some anxiety can be alleviated by simply saying “Thank you for asking me to do (fill in the blank) but I cannot commit at this time.”

I often hear “I am suffocating taking care of the kids. I haven’t worked out in months”, “My boss has me working overtime more and more each week”, or “I can’t even take five minutes to myself without a crisis in the house!”

Guess what! If you don’t take at least five minutes to regroup, that crisis may be you. Below is a short clip of one of my favorite places to get away from it all, if only for a minute or two.

Always remember that you are a C.O.G.P.O.W. and worthy of at least five minutes when you are stressing out. A COG what? Well, United Methodist Pastor and author Jorge Acevedo usesCOGPOW” to remind us that we are ALL Children Of God and Persons Of Worth. Amen, right?

If this is true, then don’t you deserve at least five minutes to get out in nature and relax, regroup and refresh?

I know. I know. Five minutes does not seem like it can do anything of importance yet when I do 5 minutes or more alone and in nature, I can feel my heart rate go down. My mind does a sort of reorganization of the things I still have to accomplish throughout the day. It reminds me of when a computer hard drive must be “defragged” in order to access your files faster. It works. I dare you to try it and share your story in the comments.

As always, email for more information or to share stories you may not feel comfortable sharing publicly.

Now get out there and relax, regroup and refresh.

In the Heat of the Moment

My husband and I attend the “modern” service at our church. The music at the most recent service began with a Chris Tomlin song called Nobody Loves Me Like You. One particular sentence jumped out at me. “Story, I could’ve had a really different story.”

I just came off of a week where I did a virtual summit and my topic was forgiveness. I had ordered a book from an author who teaches forgiveness in her church community and it had arrived earlier in the week. Then God hit me over the head one more time by having the sermon at this service be on…wait for it…forgiveness!

So I began reflecting on the night that I caught my husband texting another woman. In the heat of the moment, I grabbed the phone and texted her back saying “You can have him!” If I had truly meant that, I could have had a really different story.

It may have looked like this: My husband and I allowed the affair to ruin us as we filed for divorce. The financial burden would have been great. The arguing over selling the house, moving into smaller houses or apartments would consume our days. The bickering would begin as to who got what kitchen appliances, furniture, bed set, trinkets, photo albums and more.

Time would be lost from work as we would quarrel often when seeing the lawyers or attorney-mediator. We can both be stubborn and opinionated so this would not be a slam dunk for either side.

Who wins???

We still had two children living at home. They would have been devastated and blindsided. How would the custody have panned out? To complicate issues, the kids were in different schools seven miles apart. How would the drop-off and picks ups now occur with our schedules? We both adored seeing our children perform in school functions and athletic events. Would I be allowed to see an event when it is his night to have the kids?

Who gets the dog and who gets the cats? I want the cats for sure, but will my tiny apartment allow pets?

Off to the title bureau we would go to make sure my car was no longer in his name. Should I keep the name I have had for more than half of my life or should I go back to my maiden name?

Most of all, despite the hurt, anger, distrust, frustration and pain of infidelity, I still loved my husband. No, I am not a doormat. I am a woman who saw 25 years of a marriage that still had potential. I am a woman who is as flawed as the next person. I am a woman who chose to forgive as well as be forgiven. I am a woman who has a really different story because I did not give in to the heat of the moment.

What is your story, your legacy, your deepest desire for this life? Please help me to make this blog more interactive and comment, share, contact me and allow your story to be heard. You are beautiful and wonderful and a child of the most high.

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A Follow Up

A while back I talked about clearing clutter from your life. I watched several Marie Kondo shows and was convinced that I could do at least part of my house. (See for the “before” closet picture)

How did it go? All I can say is WOW! I thought that clearing clutter would be of some benefit, but had no idea how free I would feel. Not only is there more physical space in many of the rooms I have done, but there is emotional space as well.

Book Shelves

What is emotional space? It is a place in your thoughts where you feel like you no longer have excuses. I can no longer put off writing, or other tasks that may allow me to create a bigger influence, impact and income that I desire. You see I was playing the “Oh, I’ll write that next chapter after I clear the breakfast dishes, get a load of laundry started and sort through that junk box.”

Dresser Drawers

If I have fewer clothing items to wash, and less junk in the junk box, there is nothing holding me back from tasks that I need to complete. When I walked into my office and saw drawers spilling over, boxes of papers in the corner, magazines I will never read, and even a box of electrical cords that I have no idea what their original purpose was, I would feel stressed. It wasn’t a full-on anxiety attack, but it was the feeling that I did not deserve to do something as frivolous as chill out with a magazine or play with my kitten when there was so much to do.

My half of the closet

Now, I can breathe easier knowing I do deserve to relax, play with the kitten, read a book, write a chapter in my next book, gaze out the window at the blue heron in my pond or whatever else suits my fancy. I still have miles to go before I would ever want a person with a Marie Kondo type of personality to spend any time in my home, but progress takes time and I approach it the same way as I would if I were given the task of eating an elephant. Do you know how to eat an elephant? One bite at a time.

Please share your stories in the comments or post on the Stacey Greene Facebook page some photos of your successes.

Supplements and Vitamins
Kitchen Pantry

Legacy and Purpose

We certainly hear a lot of buzz words these days don’t we? Many of us want to know what is trending or what is hot.

Having worked in the leadership field for some years, and being a woman of faith, I have seen an exciting shift towards leaving a legacy and finding our true calling or purpose. But to me, legacy and purpose are far more than buzzwords or trends.

For years I found passion (or purpose) in racing and competing in everything from figure skating, bike racing, marathon running, triathlons and now kayaking. Great. Fun. Exciting. But when I think about how my friends will remember me after I make my transition, I don’t want them simply saying “Boy, Stacey sure did like running.”

I pray that someone, somewhere says something more to the affect of “Her books really saved my marriage” or “I was really impacted by her coaching.” Now that is the legacy that would mean more to me than being a Hawaii Ironman finisher.

Have you considered your calling or purpose? Is there something itching in your soul to create a bigger impact or influence on a particular group? Do you know your divine DNA? Is there something you want to conquer? Is there someone you need to forgive? Do you have resilience? Do you wish you had more freedom? What is your true worth? What do you want to rediscover?

Well, now is your opportunity to attend a FREE virtual summit that will go over all of these things and much more. Please attend with me from March 18th through the 22nd, 2019 at the site below. Watch from anywhere and grow with me.

Be That Giver

Sitting at the large dining room table in the home of my aunt and uncle on New Years Day was a memory I will always cherish. With three siblings of my own and five cousins, the New Years Day meal was a combination of good food, multiple conversations all at once and the truest form of being part of a family.

I always felt a bit melancholy thinking about the fact that my mother was an only child. She had hinted at the fact that as an only child she felt pressure to always be the good girl and perfect daughter. As I sat at my cousin’s table, hoping someone did not finish their shrimp cocktail and I could acquire it somehow, I felt a sense of joy that we were all so different and each had something to offer.

I have a sister, twelve years my senior and I had (sadly, past tense) two brothers. All were accomplished in their own way. One an artist, another an intellect, one an athlete and another mechanically gifted.

Our parents were small business owners and I am not sure how they managed to raise four children on their meager income. My husband and I also struggled financially in our early years of marriage and I can remember stressing about the finances of raising three children of our own. I think what my grandmother told me once became true. She looked at my swollen belly, my frazzled look, my messy house and simply said, “Babies bring their own money.”

What she meant was that there will always be kind people, family members, church groups, and well-meaning neighbors who can pick up when there is a need. That feeling of hope and support allowed my first born to have a couple of siblings.

I have no regrets of all of the financial hardship of adding to our family. Like my siblings, my own children all brought to our family their own individual strengths, talents and gifts. Having multiple children allowed me to stretch and grow in ways I did not know I was capable of.

Do you have any large families in your circle that may have a need right now? If so, how can you help? Can you be that giver?

Find those extra few dollars and anonymously send a gift card from your local grocery store to a family who would appreciate it. Drop off some lightly used children’s clothing your children no longer need. Shovel that pregnant neighbors driveway while you are out doing your own.

Look for ways that you can pay forward some of the kindnesses given to you over the years. Gratitude comes in all forms. Do not do it for acknowledgement or recognition. Do it so that some other generation of siblings will have fond family memories to share.

What it means to lead.

L.E.A.D. Leverage, Edify, Assimilate, and Direct. Isn’t that an ideal way to remember what it takes to lead? I learned this acronym from a leadership seminar and it really stuck.

No matter how many Science classes I took (and even when I homeschooled my own children through elementary school) I always had trouble understanding the three types of levers and how the fulcrums changed the ease of the load and how much force had to be applied. It always came down to leverage or the exertion of force by means of a lever or an object used in the lever.

Leverage. When I lead, am I the fulcrum? Am I the force? Or am I the load? The ability to influence a system, or an environment, in a way that multiplies the outcome of one’s efforts without a corresponding increase in the consumption of resources, is the true definition of leverage. In other words, leverage is the condition of having a relatively small amount of cost in order to yield a relatively high level of returns. Sounds quite advantageous, doesn’t it?

Edify. When we spiritually or morally uplift someone we edify them. When we introduce a speaker to a large audience we edify the speaker and get the audience excited about what the speaker will teach them. But, the best example of edification is when we speak highly of someone when they aren’t even in the room. Have you ever had a person tell you that your services came highly recommended by someone? That “someone” was edifying you when you were not around. It’s a great feeling when you know you made a difference in at least one person’s life. When we can promote, uplift and educate in a way that is pleasant and God-honoring, we are on our way to greater emotional and spiritual wealth. I love this verse from Hebrews 10:24 “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds,”

Assimilate. When we can take in someone’s culture, point of view or situation and then understand it fully, we are in a position to help, aid and support when we are called to do so. This can stretch us if we were raised a certain way or have strong convictions, but there are so many ways for us to grow as we understand others. Romans 2:11 says “For God shows no partiality” I also appreciate the teachings in Luke. Luke 6:37 “Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven” Belive me, I am still a work in progress on that one!

Direct. When we can stay on the most direct course to get from point A to point B, or when we can guide someone else in the course they are trying to take, we are leading. It is easy to get off course and distractions will always come our way, but in order for true leadership to happen, we must stay the course, stick it out, persevere, or whatever idiom works for you. Get it done!

Never forget that true leaders lead from the front. They do not delegate from the rear and wait to see what happens. They take action. Will you be a leader today? Will you boldly step out in faith that you can work on your agenda in a timely manner, be aware of the feelings and situations of the people on your team and get it done?