Month: December 2018

Was it all that?

Was Christmas all that? Was it everything you wanted it to be?

Gifts, food, Christmas music in the background. Family, laughter, romantic looks across the pile of gifts. Smiles of delight as the little ones and the big ones get their Christmas dreams all wrapped in pretty bows.

For some of us it really was all of that. I am in awe of the wonder of this magical day, but I also ache for the ones that did not have a happy Christmas. There are people hungry or homeless. There are people who are celebrating their first Christmas without a loved one they recently lost. There are families that had to rely on charity for their children to have anything to open on this day.

For those of us that had a Christmas better than most, I ask a few simple things. As we place the dishes in the dishwasher and take out the bags of crinkled up Christmas wrapping paper from the excess we enjoyed, say a prayer for those in need. Then, balance that checkbook and see where we can help an organization or even a family we know of in need. Go out and be Jesus.

Jesus came to earth in the form of a tiny baby born in a dirty barn on a cold night. He grew into a man and experienced humanity in all of its glory and in all of its ignominy. He humbled Himself for all of us. All He asked is for us to love one another and reach out to those in need.

Matthew 25:35-40

For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’ Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you?  When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’“The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’

Enjoy helping others, know you are loved and have yourself a Merry Little Christmas you beautiful people!

Thank You Michelle, Albert and Jessie!

Scene One: I am at church. A small boy is reading a passage with his family in order to light the next Advent candle. I cry tears of joy remembering my own children when they were so young and innocent. The feeling is intense.

Scene Two: I am watching the BBC series Call the Midwife when my son walks in while a devasted mom loses a baby and I cry. “Why do you watch depressing shows?” my son queries. My heart aches for the woman, fulling knowing that it is just an actor in a show.

Scene Three: It is any Christmas of any year.  My family is gathered around the TV while we watch the 1970 version of Scrooge with Albert Finney as Ebenezer himself. Everyone in the family knows the story. Not just the Chares Dickens story, but my story. I was seven when it came out at the theatre and I became obsessed with the music. My parents bought the vinyl record for me and my dear father and I would burst out into the song  Thank You Very Much.  When Tiny Tim sings The Beautiful Day you had better get the tissues out. Oh! and don’t forget that when I want to feel eternally grateful for my husband, I sing

Scene Four: My husband (yes the one I am grateful for) and I are arguing about nothing important. Sometimes it’s just what we do. I get angry and riled up for no real reason. I am irate when my husband dares to suggest that I am overreacting. But I feel so livid at that particular moment. How dare he suggest that my feelings are not valid. 

Do you have a scene that makes you cry? I love feelings. Happy. Sad. Angry. Thrilled, Joyous. Frightened. Exuberant. Disgust. Content. Surprise. Insecure. Pensive. Cheerful. They are all feelings and when you are having them, go ahead and have them. Don’t let anyone tell you what you should or should not feel. They are your feelings, not theirs. 

Here are two songs that always remind me that it is ok to feel whatever I need to feel at that moment. One is Jessie J, a pop artist and one is Michelle Tumes, a Christian artist. Enjoy and I would love to hear your comments.

Sometimes it’s ok not to be ok.

“Greet the deep emotion
That sleeps beneath the ocean floor
Watch elation bound release
Its furious roar”
 Michelle Tumes

Bloggers for 2019

What a thrill I got when I found out that this blog is one of the 23 Relationship Experts, Authors, and Blogs to follow in 2019. As I am now adding coaching services to my public speaking and writing, I felt humbled and blessed to be with the other 22 people who are all about making this world a happier place through better relationships.

Please click on the link and see who we all are. Have a great day, Stacey

Who to Follow

How many paychecks until Christmas?

When our children came home for Thanksgiving a few weeks ago, we partook in our yearly tradition of purchasing the live Christmas tree (at a Black Friday discount) and decorating the home. With Christmas music coming from my daughter’s phone (thank you Spotify), we went bananas decorating the entire downstairs of our home for Christmas.

Tree for blog

When they returned to school and jobs, my husband and I were left with a slight sense of panic as to how many paychecks between the two of us would we have before Christmas. Did we budget appropriately? Did we remind the kids that now that they are older we are trying to tone down the massive amount of presents under the tree? I hope so.

The panic subsided when I was reminded that our children love us. They don’t judge us by the gifts we can and cannot afford.

Hebrews 13:5 “Keep your life free from the love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you.’” 

Our children have always seemed to enjoy the food, the movies we watch at Christmas and the laughter we share. We are content and blessed with or without excess.

1 Timothy 6:6-8 “But godliness with contentment is a great gain. For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it. But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that.” 


Do not allow the upcoming Holidays to rob you of what is really important. Instead of counting paychecks, count your blessings, count the times you laugh, count the times you give or receive kisses and hugs, count the smiles you gave and the smiles you collected, and DON’T count the calories. Enjoy the abundance for now.