So many times in a relationship we are forced to cross a bridge of some sort. It may be the bridge from health to disease. From financial security to financial devastation. From being pregnant to having a miscarriage. Will you be just as eager to love and appreciate your mate when a brand new stress has been added to a perhaps already tenuous relationship? Can you two cross the bridge together holding hands?
In an attempt to get through many of my own bridges of life, I try to think of the Bible verses that helped my dad through tough times in his early life, and I think of all of the leadership audios and books I have read throughout the years. One reoccurring theme keeps emerging. That theme is to reframe the situation and to continue to be grateful for something; anything.
What is a reframe? Simply what it sounds like. Put a new “frame” or perspective on the “picture” or situation you have been given. Could a miscarriage teach a lesson?
2 Corinthians 4:8-9 “We are hard pressed on every side but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted but not abandoned; struck down but not destroyed”
Could a financial difficulty draw you closer to your spouse as you learn to budget better and rely on God more?
Philippians 4:12-13 “I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength”
Could a health issue force you to learn to slow down and ask your husband or wife to help more so that you can do more self-care and recover? You may be surprised that your partner really does want to see you well again.
Philippians 4:6-7 ” Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
Crossing a bridge can be scary but never forget that it can take you to a whole new place where new growth and lessons learned can occur.